Month: October 2018

3 questions if you have trouble celebrating your friend

 

It happens to the best of us! Something major just happened to one of your friends and suddenly you feel like your life isn’t going anywhere. Maybe your relationship dynamic has shifted as a result of this exciting moment for your girl. You find yourself questioning where you are in life. You ask yourself: ‘Why is my friend stepping into this exciting new world and I’ve been in the same place for what feels like forever now?’ Whatever it is, it’s important to know you’re normal. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself if you ever find yourself in a position where supporting or celebrating your friend’s accomplishment feels hard.

  1. Is there somewhere in your life you should be working harder?
    It might be a good idea to take inventory of your life. What do you have going on? Is it better to focus on the ways you can take your opportunities to the next level? Or, is it better to focus on what others around you have going on? Often times, our insecurities are controllable when we allow ourselves to focus on the ways we can improve ourselves. Each step, no matter how small, can get us thinking more positively about our own lives.RELATED: EXERCISE: THE ULTIMATE FORM OF SELF CARE 
  2.  What is coming up for you?
    Is there a sense of grief about an experience you thought you’d have that you didn’t? Perhaps you’ve been having trouble getting pregnant and your friend just announced her pregnancy. Or, you have a friend that landed an amazing new job. Or, she just entered into her first serious relationship and it’s caused the relationship between the two of you to shift. The thing that’s important to remember is that your feelings are valid, they’re not wrong. How you manage it is where it becomes tricky. A great step is to acknowledge your emotions. Allow yourself to feel whatever pain you’re feeling as a result of what you think is missing in your life. Confront the fear of not having it at the moment. Then, strategize. Write your goals on paper and plan the best most practical way you can go about achieving them step by step. As soon as you get closer and closer to your goals, the anxiety of not having what someone else has will fade. Don’t believe me? Just try it.
    RELATED: 31 DAYS OF AFFIRMATIONS
  3. How can you manage whatever you’re feeling in a way that still allows you to celebrate your friend?
    How would it feel to have a conversation about it? This is the biggest step toward acknowledging your fears or insecurities. Our friends care about us, they are our friends after all. Sometimes they can give us a different perspective. Maybe you were thinking about your friend’s accomplishments one way, but there’s an entirely different side you didn’t know about. Maybe there was a time she felt the same way you’re feeling right now. Whatever it is, talking to her about it is a great way of acknowledging how you feel with the source. It can be one step toward a more positive outlook on your own life.

Session 81: What’s Your Relationship to Substances?

The Therapy for Black Girls Podcast is a weekly conversation with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, a Licensed Psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia, about all things mental health, personal development, and all the small decisions we can make to become the best possible version of ourselves.

For this week’s episode, we’re helping you explore your relationship with substances. For this conversation I was joined by Dr. Delishia Pittman. Dr. Pittman and I discussed how you can tell if your use of substances has become more than recreational, the steps you can take to get help if you think you might be struggling, how some of our cultural practices may be contributing to masking issues with substance abuse, and how to help if you think a friend may be struggling with their substance use.

Resources Mentioned

Visit our Amazon Store for all the books mentioned on the podcast!

Where to Find Dr. Pittman

https://www.pspdc.com/

If you’re looking for a therapist in your area, check out the directory at https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/directory.

To keep digging into today’s topic and other topics discussed on the podcast, join the Facebook group at https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/tribe.

The TBG Merch store is now open for business! Shop therapyforblackgirls.com/shop to grab a new tee or mug!

Join me for this week’s Three for Thursday chat on FB & IG Live, Thursday at 12 noon ET.

If you have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at podcast@therapyforblackgirls.com.

The hashtag for the podcast is #TBGinSession.

Make sure to follow us on social media:

Twitter: @therapy4bgirls

Instagram: @therapyforblackgirls

Facebook: @therapyforblackgirls

Session 80: Sexual Freedom

The Therapy for Black Girls Podcast is a weekly conversation with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, a Licensed Psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia, about all things mental health, personal development, and all the small decisions we can make to become the best possible version of ourselves.

For this week’s episode, we dive into some of the double standards that exist when discussing women’s vs. men’s sexuality. For this conversation I am joined by Shamyra Howard, LCSW. Shamyra and I discussed why this double standard exists, how Black women can be more active in exploring their sexuality, her thoughts about friends with benefits, and of course she shared her favorite resources. 

Resources Mentioned

Visit our Amazon Store for all the books mentioned on the podcast!

http://sexpositivefamilies.com/

Where to Find Shamyra

https://conquestcounseling.com/

Facebook: @shamyralcsw

Instagram: @sexologistshamyra

If you’re looking for a therapist in your area, check out the directory at https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/directory.

To keep digging into today’s topic and other topics discussed on the podcast, join the Facebook group at https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/tribe.

The TBG Merch store is now open for business! Shop therapyforblackgirls.com/shop to grab a new tee or mug!

Join me for this week’s Three for Thursday chat on FB & IG Live, Thursday at 12 noon ET.

If you have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at podcast@therapyforblackgirls.com.

The hashtag for the podcast is #TBGinSession.

Make sure to follow us on social media:

Twitter: @therapy4bgirls

Instagram: @therapyforblackgirls

Facebook: @therapyforblackgirls

Session 79: Managing Struggles with Fertility

The Therapy for Black Girls Podcast is a weekly conversation with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, a Licensed Psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia, about all things mental health, personal development, and all the small decisions we can make to become the best possible version of ourselves.

This week I’m joined by another one of my incredible line sisters to discuss struggles with fertility. Our guest therapist this week is Licensed Psychologist, Dr. Andreka Peat. Dr. Peat and I discussed some of the cultural issues that impact the conversation around Black women and fertility, some of the alternative paths to motherhood her clients have employed, how she helps her clients manage their mental health through these processes, and she shared her favorite resources for anyone who wants to learn more about the topic.

Resources Mentioned

Visit our Amazon Store for all the books mentioned on the podcast!

Sisters in Loss Podcast

FertiCalm app

Where to Find Dr. Peat

https://www.womenswellnessatlanta.com/

Facebook: @breathingspaceforwomen

Instagram: @abreathingspaceforwomen

If you’re looking for a therapist in your area, check out the directory at https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/directory.

To keep digging into today’s topic and other topics discussed on the podcast, join the Facebook group at https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/tribe.

The TBG Merch store is now open for business! Shop therapyforblackgirls.com/shop to grab a new tee or mug!

Join me for this week’s Three for Thursday chat on FB & IG Live, Thursday at 12 noon ET.

If you have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at podcast@therapyforblackgirls.com.

The hashtag for the podcast is #TBGinSession.

Make sure to follow us on social media:

Twitter: @therapy4bgirls

Instagram: @therapyforblackgirls

Facebook: @therapyforblackgirls

Session 78: Mindfulness

The Therapy for Black Girls Podcast is a weekly conversation with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, a Licensed Psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia, about all things mental health, personal development, and all the small decisions we can make to become the best possible version of ourselves.

Shawna Murray-Browne, LCSW-C is back with us this week to talk all about mindfulness. Shawna and I chatted about the definition of mindfulness, she addressed some of the myths you may have heard about mindfulness, she shared some ways you can begin to incorporate it into your life, and of course she shared her favorite resources.

Resources Mentioned

Visit our Amazon Store for all the books mentioned on the podcast!

Check out Shawna’s 1st interview on the podcast about the mental health needs of activists.

Traditional Chinese Medicine and Our Emotions (Article): https://www.tcmworld.org/tcm-whole-body-specialty/

Where to Find Shawna

https://www.ShawnaMurrayBrowne.com

http://www.kindredwellness.net/

Facebook: @KindredWellness or @ShawnaMurray-BrowneLCSWC

Twitter: @ShawnaMBrowne

Instagram: @HealASista

EVOLVE (Members-Only Online Healing Studio): http://www.HealASista.com

The #HealASista Project FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheHealASistaProject/

If you’re looking for a therapist in your area, check out the directory at https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/directory.

To keep digging into today’s topic and other topics discussed on the podcast, join the Facebook group at https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/tribe.

The TBG Merch store is now open for business! Shop therapyforblackgirls.com/shop to grab a new tee or mug!

Join me for this week’s Three for Thursday chat on FB & IG Live, Thursday at 12 noon ET.

If you have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at podcast@therapyforblackgirls.com.

The hashtag for the podcast is #TBGinSession.

Make sure to follow us on social media:

Twitter: @therapy4bgirls

Instagram: @therapyforblackgirls

Facebook: @therapyforblackgirls

Session 77: The Truth About Self Care

The Therapy for Black Girls Podcast is a weekly conversation with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, a Licensed Psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia, about all things mental health, personal development, and all the small decisions we can make to become the best possible version of ourselves.

In today’s episode we talk all about the truth about self-care.  For this conversation I was joined by Maria Davis-Pierre, LMHC. Maria and I chatted all about what self care actually is, how self care has been commercialized, why it’s so important for us to practice self care as Black women, and of course she shared her favorite resources to help you develop your own self care plan.

Resources Mentioned

Visit our Amazon Store for all the books mentioned on the podcast including Maria’s!

Download the ThinkUp app and join us for 31 Days of Affirmations!

Where to Find Maria

http://www.daybydaytherapeuticservices.com/

https://autisminblack.org/

Facebook: @autisminblk

Instagram: @autisminblack

Twitter: @autisminblack

If you’re looking for a therapist in your area, check out the directory at https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/directory.

To keep digging into today’s topic and other topics discussed on the podcast, join the Facebook group at https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/tribe.

The TBG Merch store is now open for business! Shop therapyforblackgirls.com/shop to grab a new tee or mug!

Join me for this week’s Three for Thursday chat on FB & IG Live, Thursday at 12 noon ET.

If you have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at podcast@therapyforblackgirls.com.

The hashtag for the podcast is #TBGinSession.

Make sure to follow us on social media:

Twitter: @therapy4bgirls

Instagram: @therapyforblackgirls

Facebook: @therapyforblackgirls

31 Days of Affirmations

October 10 is my birthday and like all true Libras, I celebrate all month long lol! This year to celebrate, we’ve partnered with ThinkUp to bring you 31 days of affirmations. After the Mental Wellness Challenge in August, many of you shared that you wanted more opportunities to be reflective and think about the ways you can be more intentional about taking care of yourself, and I think this is a great way to do it! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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1. Download the ThinkUp app at therapyforblackgirls.com/thinkup. It’s free!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

2. I have chosen a collection of 31 affirmations called “Living Life on Your Terms” that can be found in the ThinkUp app. Each day we’ll share one of the affirmations on social media that you can add to your ThinkUp playlist. You can record them in your own voice and even add music. Feel free to add any of the affirmations that fit for you. You can also add your own affirmations or search the app for others.
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3. Journal about what comes to mind for you as you’re reflecting on the affirmations. Try to choose a time at the beginning of your day or at the end of the day for this exercise. Do some fit for you better than others? What made you choose the ones you did? There’s no right or wrong answers, more a reflection of your process. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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4. At the end of the month, if you’d like to, make a 1 minute or less video discussing what the experience has been like for you and how you plan to continue using affirmations as a part of your mental wellness plan and email it to kamron@therapyforblackgirls.com. We’ll choose one winner randomly who will win a premium version of the Thinkup app.